Discovering your entire life has been a lie can be devastating.
We all like to think we can trust our partners. Relationships require two people to be honest and open about their lives in order to let the other person in – but what would you do if you found out your significant other had been lying to you for the entirety of your time together?
That’s the predicament one woman has found herself in. She’s just found out her husband of six years has been living a secret double life behind her back ever since they tied the knot. Not only has she just uncovered that her spouse has been cheating on her with his ex, but she’s found out something even more shocking – they had a child together.
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In a post on Reddit, the woman said she has been with her husband for nine years in total, but they’ve been married for six. They tied the knot after she fell pregnant with their first child, and they now have two kids together. She also knew her husband had one child with his ex-girlfriend prior to them getting together and said the pair had a “very strained co-parenting relationship”.
When her first child was around a year old, she was contacted by the new boyfriend of her husband’s ex, who claimed he had “evidence” that their two partners were having an affair – and that her husband had gotten the other woman pregnant for a second time.
The woman confronted her husband, who “swore up and down he would never cheat”. Since he and his ex-girlfriend were in and out of custody battles over their existing child, the woman believed him when he insisted it wasn’t true – as she assumed the ex had made it up to get back at him.
She said: “I never in a million years would have actually thought he would cheat on me with HER of all people given how rocky their relationship always was in my eyes. We even got married while she was pregnant because I had no idea. I obviously never would’ve married him had I known!
“I asked him about this for years because it never sat right with me. I would bring it up often, and he would always reassure me that he did not cheat on me. He has no contact with her or their two children.”
Six years later, the man has finally confessed that he did indeed have an affair with his ex-girlfriend. He initially claimed it was a one-time thing, but after more questioning from his wife, he admitted it was “on and off for almost a year”, starting just two months after his wife gave birth to their first child.
She added: “I am so disgusted with him and his actions, and I feel like an idiot for not knowing when it was going on. [During] some of the most challenging moments of my life, becoming a mother, recovering from birth, and adjusting to this new body, he was out there [sleeping with his ex]. The way he cheated on me for months and was sleeping with us both at the same time, right after I just had our first child together!”
Commenters on the post urged the woman to file for divorce. Many said the man had shown he had “no respect” for her and was a “liar” who could no longer be trusted.
One person said: “I’m sorry you’re going through this. I think the best thing for you is to file for divorce. Your husband is cruel, cheating, lying and manipulative. Your marriage is really broken. It’s over.”
Another added: “Divorce him. Let him know that he is exactly that guy to you that he says he isn’t. Otherwise, he wouldn’t have lied to you about her and abandoned his kids with both of you.”
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